The Opposite Direction

Don’t project your insecurities on to the other person. Let them breathe, even if with their problems. Let them sit and think them over to proceed towards a solution. Don’t discard that a certain problem can never happen to others because you are unable to accept the reality you you haven’t been in their shoes ever. Don’t respond “you are joking”, “stop joking”, “this can’t be true”,  “it’s nothing”, “you are imagining it” or “don’t create scenes in your head” or anything similar in nature in response. By doing so, you are pushing them towards their ruin by discarding their truth and saying so from a place of privilege. You, hence, become one with the oppressors or the culprits of their suffering. Don’t do more harm than good. 

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Clicked

After my breakup, when I was not yet as completely over it but still considerably was, I chose to find a partner. I didn’t want to do anything as I had done previously so I couldn’t think of any man who was my friend that he could be my partner. The messages folder of Facebook was filled with the messages of men that I didn’t want to reply to at all. Also, I have a habit of not going in the past. So, I decided to date someone completely new. Obviously, I couldn’t find that person by sitting on my bed whole day and being an introvert as I still am, I will never be comfortable to just casually talk to a stranger. My life was certainly not centered around men at that time but since I am in a girls college as I was even then, I was suddenly void of the active presence of a male friend or acquaintance who I always had throughout my 13 years of school life, however introverted I may have been. 

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