I am a woman, the protector of man and also, at times, who feels the desire to be protected, by a man. I am the one who is protecting and also, the one who is being protected because all of us—whether we are male, female or belong to the LGBTQIA+ community—have an innate desire, which may be occasional and circumstantial, to feel protected—physically, mentally or emotionally. The existence of community proves this. If nothing, we desire to feel protected from our self-doubts and require a basic sense of validation, which we find in community. Well, then community is a also a source of protection, isn’t it? There are also situations where people are tired of protecting and being protected, so why to obligate yourself?
When and why did a basic human, or even animalistic, desire for protection and survival become a parameter and essential value that bases the failed institutions like patriarchy or matriarchy? It is just a basic intuitive desire that is expressed as such circumstances arise. In today’s time, protecting has become a duty. Why did the politics have to get involved in it? How can a basic desire of all—which should unite them—became a basis for division, ironically? Fortunately, this kind of division does not exist within armies because however imbalanced the ratio is, there, all genders protect the humanity from any of the threats posed by those who think rather inhuman and favour the potential of mass destruction.
I don’t think desires need to be stereotyped, that too, such a basic desire as of a being which exists. Protect yourself and if you can, then the one who requires and demands it, irrespective of any parameters except this. It doesn’t have to be a symbol or basis of anything except being human and practicing humanity. The desires of being the protector and the protected can co-exist, can it not?