My parents were watching ”Aligarh” and while watching, my father comments, rather in a sympathetic tone, “Well, I don’t really support this gay activity since it’s ‘against nature’, but what can one do if they are constructed as such by God?” Though veiled with sympathy, he wanted to assert that the concept of the movie, the love between gays is wrong.
Firstly, I don’t believe in the concept of god. I have my own reasons for that. Now, secondly, coming back to where we started, being a gay or anyone who is not from the two major sexes of the society, namely, males and females is— a) not ‘wrong’, b) nothing to be sympathetic to, c) something as normal as breathing, d) nothing to wish to be changed, e) not a result of the sins they committed in their past lives.
All the genders have been confined within some social constraints. Some realise it, others don’t. Everyone is subject to stereotypes. There are rules confining their beliefs, thoughts and actions. All of us are made to feel that we have to be within those constraints, otherwise we would be ‘deviated’, or most simplistically said, we’ll take the ‘wrong’ path.
Well, for me, every homosapien is a human until he or she loses his or her humanity. One should not be punished for being a different individual. Yes, that is it. They are different, nothing else. But, if we notice closely, all of us are different from one another in our own way which makes us unique. So, if we punish them on this basis, we should first punish ourselves. Naturally, therefore, being different is not wrong.
In some cultures, it was supposed to be justified to punish the ‘other’ gender, as we call them, by killing them because they were ‘destroying the culture’. That’s something that should be reserved to the inhumans—rapists, physical abuser, the one indulging into domestic violence or the ones involved into drug dealings— but not to the LGBTQs who are humans in all senses.
As far as the preservation of culture is concerned, even the mythological characters confirm the presence of the LGBTQs and justify that they didn’t commit any sin in their past life. The Mahabharata holds evidence to this. Kashiraj, the king of the kingdom of Kashi, had three daughters. Amba was the eldest. At that time, there was a tradition of Swayamvar where the bride chose her husband among various men to find one suitable groom for herself. The grooms proved their potentials to present themselves as the perfect groom for the bride. Kashiraj organised Swayamvar for his daughters and all of them were abducted by Bhishma as he considered them to be suitable brides for his brother and the king of the kingdom of Hastinapur, Vichitravirya. Amba approached Bhishma and the council of Brahmins and revealed that she and the king of the kingdom of Salva were in love with each other and that she was going to choose him as her husband in the Swayamvara. Due to the abduction, though, she fell from his eyes and was not accepted as his wife. Amba took rebirth in the form of Shikhandi, a transgender, to avenge her humiliation caused by Bhishma. Therefore, it is certainly not against culture, definitely not a result of their sins since the sin, if considered, was committed by Bhishma, and therefore not ‘wrong’.
As for treating the genders on the basis of their sexuality and choice of partner, even heterosexuals are not allowed to love freely because of many factors other than sexuality. Love is treated as a crime. Now, this is what we can logically reason to be wrong.
For me, being inhuman, as I wrote earlier, is wrong. Love is not wrong. Loving out of the heterosexual circle is not wrong. Forcing your love upon someone is wrong. Forcing your choice as a parent or guardian over your child regarding their partners is wrong. Let’s not deviate from the basics of humanity. Let’s live with peace, harmony and brotherhood. Love yourself, love others. Spread love, spread happiness, spread humanity.